Volume Two:

Kosova. North Park. Chicago. Life as an adult.

Tuesday, August 29, 2006

North Park University and "Peter, what the heck is 'Qajtown?'"

North Park,

where the verdant spaces on campus make for a homey atmosphere
where playing ultimate at 11:30 PM is completely acceptable
where the north branch of the Chicago River is brown and gross-looking
where the jazz band kicks my butt
where the 3:1 male to female ratio is highly evident, and highly awesome
where the squirrels are fairly personable and friendly
where there are so many nice and awesome people on campus, and I get discouraged that I can’t hang out with everybody all the time
where I might lose my hookah virginity soon
where sirens roll by at least 6 times daily
where they actually served "cheesburger casserole" last night. I passed.
where the Sunday night worship time is a genuine experience
where my sister is coming to visit --- very soon!
where Jason, a cubs fan who actually likes the cardinals more, lives
where last night four passionate musicians/songwriters came together and just started writing worship songs for the fun of it.
where my math class is called "structures and concepts"
where I spent an hour and a half on an EL to go to a gospel church last sunday, it was fun, but we were so, so late.
where it rained all day on the first day of classes :-(
where the campus is 36% minority, a refreshing change to the white-rich-suburban atmosphere of Westminster Christian Academy
where I co-exist with the surrounding football players in 3 of the closest nearby rooms
where the only class I have on Tuesday/Thursday is at 8:30 AM

I think I like it here.



So, now, I progress to the question on all of your minds:
"Peter, what the heck is 'qajtown?'"

This is really quite simple, and, as I'm always in the market for a screename that exemplifies creativity, originality, and significance, its brilliant. Because this blog commences with my Kosova experience, I wanted something relevant to Kosova. Because I expected to keep it up to date with college, chicago, and the like, I wanted something relevant to Chicago. So, the albanian word for tea is "qaj" (pronounced, "chai"), and a nickname for chicago is "Chi-town." Since I liked the tea so much there (and brought a ton back with me), I had to honor the name, and lo and behold, we have, "Qajtown."

Friday, August 18, 2006

Kosova Journal: Week 1, 29 June - 7 July

::DISCLAIMER:: The content of this journal is mostly original, but with minor omissions due to privacy, stupidity, or plain boringness.

29 June

"Mommy, do you think everybody is going to disney world?" - An eager child asks his mother in Lambert Saint Louis International Airport. Well, far from it, actually.

30 June

Sure, I am being forced to operate between 2 and 5 AM body time, but its been pleasant and lacking complications from Dallas-Fort Worth to London Gatwick [DFW -> LGW]. I sat next to an elderly, kindly gentleman named, "Harvey." I don't know if he snored or not because the Lunesta knocked me out for four straight hours. I totally the dig the Britishness - the accents, expressions, fashion. Once again, my inner anglophile is coming out. LGW likes to a wait a while before revealing the assigned gate for one's flight. I anticipated anxiously, paced, shopped, read. Only to find that the meager 5-minute intervals brought no remedy to the constant departure monitor notifcation:

Pristina - BA 2880 - Please WaitMy departing gate at London-Gatwick.

Eventually my instructions came. My first notion of uncertainty [aka American Ignorance] came with the currency exchange. *Just in case* I acquired 15 euros in exchange for $25. I don't know if they took advantage of my ignorance or not. Later, I was charged $5.32 for a drink at Starbucks. Sheesh. I had a little scare at the baggage claim in Pristina but finally it came.

[About the American Team] Everybody else's outgoingness and overwhelming super, wide-smiled, "get-to-know-you-right-away" personalities make up for my "quasi-stand back, smile, and casually wait to engage the conversation" personality.
My first encounter with my host family: They welcomed us and moved us to a cooler part of the house. Pajazit, the father, sat down across the coffee table, and offered us cigarettes and carbonated water. And then, the COFFEE. After adding sugar, it was tolerable, I guess. Maybe even better than tolerable. I even recall thinking, "gee, this stuff for a month might not be that bad."

My housemates:
Josh [my roommate]: From PA
Chae [Korean]: From Houston, TX

David [Older gentleman]: From PA, as well.
Both Josh and David are from the Blue Church team. All are nice fellas. We had an excellent first dinner together. Seeing Mark and Trish has been lovely. I like the culture here, but still have no idea what the names of my hosts are.

1 July

Went on a prayer walk today. It was personally revealing to see how much scri
pture some people can so simply and automatically recite during prayer; a tendency I haven't assumed as of yet. During the morning we had specific Lypjan orientation. Later in the day, we had camp orientation, instruction, and preparation. After our meeting and Better Life Center [BLC] prayer walk, I helped with decorations for the set. We painted lots of Island Scenery [rainbows, clouds, sun] and taped it up to the netting in the gym. Dinner was excellent, I checked email, and got to know some people better. We hung out at Ciao's - a coffeeshop and local hangout. The World Cup is pretty popular here, so when all else conversation fails, talking about futbol is usually an acceptable last resort. I won a bet with Bonita since France beat Brazil [I didn't think they would either], and got a free coffee and ice-cream as a result. :-)


Josh and Sam playing in front of the newly-constructed Island [skit stage].

2 July

Sunday! The worship service this morning was pleasant. We sang, prayed, and Mark preached about being obstinate and stubborn in sharing our faith. During free time, we assembled the ancient ARMY tents, I helped Kerry finish lining the point board, and hung out at the center. At night, Jeff and Deb had POTC:CBP set up at Ciao's to watch on the big screen, but my housemates and I left early to rest at home. Since we returned considerably early, we got some serious bonding time with my host family. I played trumpet for them, a bit. It wasn't that most enjoyable of functional instrument, but I think they appreciated the effort. Next, they offered me a beer. I gladly accepted. Skopsko is the name of the Kosovar beer [which I later found out was Macedonian.] During this time, I finally learned the family's names [they wrote them down] and listened as Leonita eagerly taught me shqip words for my belongings on the table [my light, watch, lighter, beer, etc...] and a number of pictures in a school book of hers. The power went out tonight, so I washed my hair in a flashlight-illuminated bathroom. I slept great.

Assembling the ancient ARMY tents;
Rumor has it they date back to the Korean War!

3 July

The first day of camp! Kids were excited, and overwhelmingly cooperative; I was impressed. It rained today which somewhat dampened the joyous spirits. My kids are great. Since none spoke English, we had somewhat awkward/silent beginnings. Though, their efforts are respectable. My kids are: Donika, Gresa, Labinota, Albrim, and Jeton. Tania and Joanne had the other two teams which comprised our group: the Blue Circles. The kids really are adorable. I helped with the afternoon game time which was so much fun. We played "Blob" and other run-around games. I was again impressed with the children's cooperation, as many of them were kids who were unable to register for camp due to number restrictions.

My Kids [1st Camp]: Jeton, Albrim, Labinota, Gresa/Diellza, and Donika

4 July

Happy Independence Day! Today, I went on my first family visit. Amanda, Dan, Agron [the translator], and I went to Albrim's house. As this was my first visit, ever, so I was naturally nervous. Well, we showed up and neither of his parents are home, only a cousin and his aunt. So, the beginning was a little awkward, but soon the aunt left and only albrim, his little sister, and their cousin [a 14 year old girl who we all seriously thought was 20] remained. So, Agron helped the conversation, but it was really just a very youthful visit - talking about her, me, Dan, Albrim, lots of jokes and humor, and it turned out to be a very comfortable and fun visit. I was nervous at the beginning, but I think it came together nicely.

My trumpet proved to be a unique way of entertaining or intriguing
Kosovars, both young and old. This is Albrim, at his visit.

5 June

Today was the third day of camp. Things are running more smoothely and naturally now. We started learning about shapes today, and sang the "shape song" which I helped Bonita, Amanda, and Dorinda write to the tune of "I've got Rhythm." The kids dig it. Today was filled with exciting experiences. The first two were my visits. For my first visit, I accompanied Tania and Daniella [the translator] to the Serbian part of town to visit Miljana. Svetlana, her best friend, accompanied us. This was a very enjoyable visit because the two girls are absolutely adorable. Svetlana is the more outgoing of the two, so she kept trying to correct my pronunciation of "Miljana" and her persistance [along with my errant attempts] was really hilarious. The girls pulled an english book out from their school, and showed off their English. It was very good, and in class they are shyer because they're Serbian. It's sad, because both are extremely bright.

Svetlana and Miljana (from Tania's group) are pretty much the most
adorable girls (they're Serbian) in Kosova. Here, we are playing "Hot Hands"

After the Serbian visit, I went back to the center and met Amanda and Vjollca to visit Donika. Donika has had a crush on me since day 1, and each day seemed to make it more evident. Anyway, the visit to her house was alot of fun, especially with Vjollca. Since she was sure that the family couldn't understand anything we were saying, she would take the liberty of asking me stuff, and saying "oh, don't worry, I won't translate that" if I said something embarrassingly stupid or something like that. I gave Donika a picture of myself, and she put it in a little photo album of hers. I'm getting more used the visits, and enjoying them more.

Donika, her family, Amanda, and myself in their apartment.

The third noteworthy happening from today came this evening. I came back to my host family somewhat early (10:15ish), and decided to sit down with them and chill for a while and finish watching the futbol game. Much to my suprise, they were just about to serve dinner. So, they quickly invited me to join them; I did. Well, the night before David told me about a meal he got to have with them and said it was terrific, though he warned me about the pepper and cheese dip, it's spicy. He said there were some green peppers that weren't hot which were also served. Well, I tried the dip, as he warned, it had a significant bite, but was doable. So, I pointed to the peppers, and asked if they were hot. I mean, C'mon, I'm a Schamp, we write the definition for hot stuff. They said, "No, no, no, no, no, no...not hot not hot" So, I took a bite out of one.

*ouch*

For 15 minutes I suffered, downing 8 glasses of water, stuffing gigantic chunks of bread in my mouth, panting, sweating, and trying desperately to make my lips and tongue stop stinging - it was the hottest thing I'd ever eaten. [Later, Trish told me that they probably understood "hot" in terms of temperature, not in terms of spicy - it was cooked, but cold.] The bright side? I got to three more Albanian words: Speci [pepper], Diex [sp? hot, spicy], and nxehte [hot, temperature.]

This would be the culprit.

6 July

No entry today :-(

But here are some pictures:

Skopsko, my first beer. I later found out CrossWorld frowns upon the
consumption of alcohol on the field. So, it was my last as well - for now.

Here is the Olluri family, along with my housemates: Josh, Chae, and David.
Ardian, Illirian, and Leonita are the three children. Leonita was a camper the first week.

Here's Milan and Xhevat, two of the BLC staff members.
They're cool fellas, I enjoyed chatting with them, playing basketball with them, and the like.

7 July

I am realizing more and more sensitively my own sin and lack of Christian understanding and "procedure" for lack of a better word [really, I have no better word]. Praying with Sam today before camp was encouraging and inspiring. Ought I feeling like praying needs to be a performance though? No, but I do need it. Today was rougher than the others - I think that is because everyone is tired. We lack patience, and let our goal of Serbian/Albanian unity sort of overtake the main point of letting the kids have fun. It’s funny that after a strong 20-minute prayer time, I have a bad day [in camp]. What made it more difficult? Miscommunication with other leaders, rowdy kids, and my visit. Stress: Gresa has now rescheduled for a 3rd time, now we need to do a visit on Tuesday and that urks me. I really love hearing other team members talk about God as their intimate friend - a level I am still hesitant to openly share or talk about. I DO think it makes the stronger though and that I would grow in strength from it. And yes, I need the strength - lust is catching up with me - lots of beautiful people here. I need to be mindful of how I interact with [a certain girl], a fairly attractive girl. I can't be the subject of judgement based on my actions, nor should I be the cause of a "sticky" situation. God, give me the strength to resist the temptation of the evil one and to grasp to your teachings of love and faithfulness to your commandments.
One bright note from today was my visit with Jeff and Deb. I chilled alot with Jeff, looked at pictures, talked about missions, his marriage [how it began...its a cool story - they've been friends since they were 3!] and other stuff of interest. An hour and a half passed very quickly. After supper and bombi at Ciao's, I went to the Edwards' apartment and called Dad via Skype. We talked for 12 minutes, it was a pleasant conversation and good to hear his voice. I conveniently interrupted him from a meeting. No basketball tonight as originally planned. Sad.
I absolutely ADORE our group hymnsings - even just one or two. For a group of musically laypeople, they are a lot for fun to harmonize with. I love my team. Everyone is inclusive and really great. Thanks, God.

The row of apartment buildings that line the walking street. Jeff and Deb's building is
front and center, right above Ciao's, which is the shop with the blue-ish awning.

Here's an example of Craft Class. Tyli [Natyra] led it, mostly in English.
We had to utilize a locker room becaus that was the only available room with enough space.

Kosova Journal: Week 2, 8 July - 14 July


8 July

Today went much better. I shared my concern(s) of yesterday with the group, and Bonita prayed for me. Later, Dan and Dave prayed with me and we all honestly admitted our struggles and concerns - and it felt great to just get them "out there" as it were and to understand these men as my brothers. My 2nd visit was cancelled today and I had no idea what to do, so I went to the BLC to see who was there. Well, I ended up talking wtih Milan, a serbian transator on staff at the center. Well, we talked for about 2 hours about all kinds of stuff: Americans, American traditions, girls (showed him pics of JSB), dating, and eventually led to me throwing in some solid Christian beliefs into the conversation here and there. Xhevat also came in and added to it. Even though Milan seemed to pretty concretely claim and hold true to his Serbian Orthodox beliefs, I was still encouraged by the fact that I was able to open my mouth a little more and practice talking about God more. Later, at debrief [with the blue church...long story] I shared the same thing.

9 July

Sunday! Worship this morning was splendid - good 'sermon' by Bob, the assistant pastor at the Blue church. The singing was, once again, great. After that, Sam, Dan, Kerry, and I went to Roma's for lunch. This was borderline dissapointing because the restaurant wasn't serving any of our first choices that day [even though they were on the menu.] So, we all had to order something else and being limited in time, I order the most basic, smallest cheese pizza - it wasn't that great. So, after lunch we boarded the Kombis and went to the HUGE cave about 15 minutes away. The cave was pretty interesting and I enjoyed the walk through it. My headlamped helped when the electricity went out in the cave [much to the dismay of those who had made fun of me for wearing it.] Once we were back in Lipjan, I took a knap, listened to music, hung out with the family, and taught the kids "go fish." They don't *really* get it, but I tink they that they were happy to have learned it. Later, I went to dinner with David and, having delicious food, got to know him better. David is a very neat guy, poor, artsy; we share a love for creative words, musicals, the occasional romantic comedy, and cheap humor. He also has a daughter whom he talks about often. He's the first man I've met who carries a single vanilla folder with him everywhere. the folder contains poetry, songs, and essays - some that he loves, some that he's written, some that his daughter has written. He has a knack for recognizing brilliant style when I overlook it. He has recommended the movie, "I went up a hill and came down a mountain." I hope to see it sometime when I return, before NPU, in August.

I wish I knew where my blue pen is...

I don't remember the name of this cave, but golly, was it massive.

Here are David [middle] and Dan. They're good fellas.

10 July

After a brief scare of rain in the morning, the day became beautiful,. Almost too hot. Mondays are market days and the town is packed with people from villages all coming to the market to buy or sell. I went three times today. On the 3rd time, with Amanda after our visit, I purhaces some music and Dolce and Gabbana shirt [a trendy European brand.] The visit with Labinota was pleasant and short. Her mom is a tailor and she showed us some of her creations and her shop. After dinner I found little to do, so Mark kindly invited me out for a coffee. Our conversation was honest and real and very encouraging. I guess that, in a way, it could've felt like it was just a team leader taking one of his members out to chat, but this was more than that. But, because I knew Mark well and that I knew his family and that knew me, it was more personally pleasurable. We talked about all kinds of things, and he particularly encouraged me in that I don't have to try to act like or be a "super christian" but rather, to just live a God-pleasing life. I asked him several questions about camp, this and the next one, and I was impressed with his thoughts. I look forward to seeing them [Mark and Trish] more often.

Labinota[right] with a beautiful wedding dress her mother made.
Her sister attended camp the second week.


11 July

Finally, the last day of camp 1. It’s a culmination of hard work and personal relationship-building. I knew this day would be long and busy, and it turned out to be just that. The morning progressed fairly quickly and it was pleasant. My kids were still too dumb to understand the game. Oh well. After lunch, I went back to the center to clean up. It turns out, however, that we played basketball and hung out together for a while. Well, I felt guilty about that, so I went outside to pick up trash on the ground [there was a lot of it.] Two kids joined me, Ervis and Gresa, whom I was visiting later today. They were persistent and very selfless; it was wonderful. When I was finished with that, I went inside and talked with Arbana and Roza a bit. They're neat girls, I hope that they will become believers. Roza wrote a very mature monologue entitled, "why?" - questions about poverty, the world, etc... I was very impressed. They're also pretty cute, shucks. After that, Deb recruited me for bathroom cleaning. Fun. Finally, it was time to go to Gresa's house for a visit. Laura [the translator] and Dan came with me. The first thing I learned was that Gresa's name was actually Diellza - it was a pretty hilarious discussion actually. After that, the visit was quite enjoyable. Also, after Diellza revealed her real name whe was so much crazier and outgoing. Seriously, like a new person. It was neat to see - all this energy bottled up, ready to come out. After dinner, we headed to the BLC for the parents' program. Overall, it went well and was warmly recieved. The only downside was during Mark's "Message" [basically, a light explanation of Chrisitanity] - it was super noisy and I doubt people understood, but there is hope. The noise was satan's manipulative doing, I'm sure. Afterwards, we had our last group togetherness time - we also had a good prayer time. Exhausted, the boy and I came home fairly early to spend time with the Olluri's.

Gresa/Diellza, Laura, and I. There were so
many family members there, they all kept pouring in.

Here's an example of the energy they had [the Albanian National Anthem]:


12 July

The first team left. A number of us went to Prishtina to tour, hang out and see the them off. Prishtina was fairly pleasant, but short-lived at the same time. Hopefully, I can see it again sometime before I go. After Prishstina I found Josh and we hung ouat the Edwards' apartment while we awaited the pizza dinner with language helpers. Once again, I let teenage boy hormones get the best of me and let the fact that I was seperated from the people I wanted to to the most disstract me from the pleasurable company I was sitting by. What a shame. That night I attended an intern meeting. We [I'm not an intern, techincally] were reminded that we need to be mindful of our actions and make the flirtaciousness nill. Other things we discussed, but this obviously hit me the hardest. Josh andI then had a good brotherly discussion. Josh: what a guy! We went home shortly thereafter and got rest. Because I had to get up at 6:40 AM!

Me with the Skanderbeg statue in Pristina, as seen on Wikipedia

13 July

SKOPJE!!! Today, Trish led a group of 6 of us to Skopje, the capital of Macedonia. We traveled on the train for 2 hours - I learned the Norwegian game, "idiot." Skopje was much fun. I generally stuck with Kerry, as the women stuck together. We went shopping, a lot. The coffee, as I recall, was much stronger. I finished it nonetheless. The mall was nice, but I enjoyed the "old" part of the city much more. The restaurant Kerry and I ate out was superb - seriously, some of the best chicken that I've had in a long time. Kerr and I enjoyed a hike around the fortress/castle thing and got some sweet shots of the city and different structures. It started to rain as we were walking bacak to the mall and train station - so, we opted for a taxi instead. That night I went to Rozafa's with the interns and enjoyed their pleasant company - it got extremely chilly, as I recall. Bonita challenged me about going to Urbana and being open to long-term ministry. Matthew shared a personal concern of his regarding living in Australia or not. I engaged in a very long, heated chess match with Kerry at the guys' house. I won. :-)

My coffee in Skopje, Macedonia

The Stone Bridge

Some statue within the "fortess/castle thing"

Perhaps evidence of war in the "fortress/castle thing?"

More cool "fortress/castle thing"

Kerry and Trish in the train on the way back to Lypjan. We had a splendid time.

14 July

Today I slept in, relaxed, rejuvenated, and spent some more time with my host family - it was bliss! So, we got some lunch somewhere and then had a meeting. I think. Yeah, a review of last camp. I gave a suggestion which was warmly welcomed: the "begin-at-3-make 'em earn-5-points" system [like music competitions]. They liked it and we're using it! Again, Josh and I hung out at the guys' house after our dinner [reunited with Skender, our chef] and I again beat Kerry in chess.

Natyra and Flutra. By meer appearance, you wouldn't think they're only 17 and 18.
Nor would you by their maturiy, peace of mind, and interactions. Wow.

Kosova Journal: Week 3, 15 July - 20 July

15 July

Trish's birthday! I surprised her a jazzy rendition of "happy birthday" at breakfast and I really enjoyed it; so did she. Upon completion of breakfast, we made haste to the center for our Lypjan orientation [primarily for the new team]. This was the same as last week, followed by a prayer walk. Even though it was the same, some reiteration was helpful for me. Interestingly enough, we didn't pray during my prayer walk, unsure why. I was with basically the four most influential males in the camp, but we just walked. It was good fellowship and I got to learn more about the city. Mark pointed out significant places and homes of people or in regards to the war [we were in the mosque neighborhood, primarily]. Today I started to get to know some of the new people - as Bonita challenged us to do. The Landmans are benign, sincere, loving people. They're my travel partners on the way home, so I'm looking forward to getting to know them some more. Tiffany is cool, too. Alice, I met on the Skopje trip but she was still recovering from her jetlag, so slept on the train mostly. I haven't gotten to know Heather yet.

For lack of a better time, I'll introduce you to some language helpers and translators.

Roza and Arbana Miftari. They're great and we got to spend much time together
[mostly during afternoon game times] They are, needless to say, beautifully made in God's image.


Elena and Fitorja [cousins] sitting with Bonita. Elena, Fitorja and I are buds.
Elena lives in Switzerland and is pracitcally fluent in four languages. Wow.
We all chat/email fairly regularly and its been swell.

Pajtesa - quite the athlete. She's cool.

16 July

CHURCH! I had a good time talking with Tiffany this morning and discovering a similar passion for music, singing, and other similarities in life. Terri and her dad, Tim [my housemate whose extremely late arrival proved to be a rude awakening at 12:30 PM] finally joined us after several airplane mishaps. Praise God. Both are genuinely loving people. I'm glad they are here and for the chance to get to know them. This afternoon I did just that, and we had a blast! Xhevat, Agron, Terri, Tiffany, Corisa, and myself all went to cafe Marigona [the 'hip' coffee bar in town] to chill and hang out. We had a good time. After Marigona, we went to Agron's to watch them chop wood and hang out some more. It was lots of fun. Tonight I was supposed to Skype with Mom and Dad, but the power gave out, so I enjoyed some 45-minute chill time with the Edwards, which is, as we all know, always nice. A guys' movie night was also happening but stopped short once again, because of power outage. Lets get some rest for the first camp day, eh? Yes, spoken like a fake canadian [ <-- did I actually write that? Yes... yes I did *rolls eyes*]. Terri is glad we're all together; she feels we compliment each others' personalities really well and ought to get along. She had her concerns before coming [concerns which I shared as well], but was now calmer, more content, and happier.

I feel that it is worthwhile noting that Xhevat broke a chair tonight with a futbol and it was priceless! He kicked the ball which hit the chair [the plastic chair was serving as a goal post] and a single leg shot from the chair and punctured the boat, dangling on the inside. It was one of the coolest things I've ever seen. I guess you had to be there. Fortunately, Kerry, Xhevat, Agron, and I all were.

Corissa, Tiffany, Agron and I. Agron and I had shot a modeling picture earlier.
Here I just look like a plain idiot. Oh well.

Just for grins, here is our modeling pic. Agron actually is a part-time fashion model.
I got to see his pictures, they're pretty darn awesome.

Here's the "trifecta?" We actually never came up with a nickname, but we had fun.
Tiffany, way to be front and center. Good work.

17 July

First day of camp 2. I was worried, I admit, about who my kids would be and how they would act and interact with each other. Well, God made calm my anxiety and the first day I had 5 rather cooperative and tranquil boys - we'll see what happens as the camp progresses. The one somewhat minor and challenging thing is the seeming lack of enthusiasm in the kids and leaders. This was shared in debriefing time, too. I participated in the 2:00 game time, when I may have opted for the market or free/alone time. I did, however, enjoy playing futbol with the 8 boys that showed up. Wait, I recall that the kids were major whiners and complainers. Playing inside with the girls was fun, too. I just rememberd that I ought to mention that all of the Olluris left for Albania on vacation[ save for Ardian, the oldest son], and will be gone until the 26th of July. This makes me both sad and happy. I *was* feeling like I was struggling being kind and gracious to Leonita - she just really frustrated us sometimes. But, I wish Tim would have had the pleassure of the fun [and sometimes strange] interactions with the family. THAT is what makes me somewhat sad.

Gentrit, Egzon, Laurent, Endrit, Granit - my boys!

This picture has no significance to July 17th, its just showing
Jeff, Agron, and Faton [Agron's younger bro]
at Ciao's - out popular hangout joint.


18 July

Camp day 2. Today the boys were still great and Melodye got more kids, so our English class became somewhat more vibrant, which was definately needed. In today's game, goldrush, I stubbed my toe. As the day progressed it felt intensely more painful and so I looked at it - DARK purple. I was limping alot, and it was the most - painful bruise I've ever had, I imagine. So, at Egzon's house [my first visit for the 2nd camp], his mother made an authentic Kosova medical treatment for me: onions mixed with salt. I was initially skeptical, but it really, really helped ease the pain. Joanne Landman, bless her heart, served me my entire dinner. Carolyn, who accompanied me on the visit, felt that it was probably broken. That's a scary thought Well, I hung out a bit with Agron tonight at Ciao's and Starnet [the internet cafe]. I really like this guy. I sincerely wish that he would reconsider his faith and become a believer. I know he's heard the message, it just some more "umph" with it, I think. I may give him my headlamp [because he really likes it] with some verses that talk about light.

My toe [pre-treatment].The bluriness bothers me too, get over it.

19 July

"Holy, freakin crap"

This statement, and about 7 repititions of it summed up our [mine and Josh's] feelings and thoughts about tonight. This conversation was ridiculous. We talked with Besnik and Ramadon, both very kind and calm gentlemen and the two most devout muslims I've met yet. [I recorded the major points of the conversation on a page in the back of my journal, and I will add them here:]
Major points in the conversation with Besnik:
- Muslims believe the Bible, and acknowledge it to be a holy text. To say you don't believe the Bible is saying you aren't muslim.
- Jesus was but a prophet of God, only. Not his son.
- Acknowledgement of four ways to make a human:
1. Adam -- out of nothing. "Ex Nihilo" as it were.
2. Eve -- out of flesh
3. Jesus -- virgin mother
4. everyone else -- natural sexual reproduction
- Acknowledge miracles
- Jesus ascended in the garden of G and never actually died. God made Judas appear like Judas, and Judas was instead crucified.
- The Gospel of Barnabus, etc...? gnostic writings which they give credentials to
- Whats the difference between Adam and Jesus? God had the same WILL in both creations - unnatural births
- In Bible, Jesus tells woman "no, I'm not the messiah' -- this was clearly taken out of context
- The Quran is superior to the Bible. So, when it contradicts the Bible, the Quran is given more regard, because the quran is the all-true word of Allah, as reveal to Muhammed sometime in 1300 AD. Muhammed was prophesied by Jesus, appearantly. [I'd have to look up where]

Anyway, these were the major points in this most intense religious discussion. We thought/talked about it together for a long time. Josh and I didn't have much opportunity to share our side...which is good, becuase we felt pretty burned, and because it was valuable to hear the other side first. We plan to meet again, and discuss our side more in-depth.
My toe has been feeling significantly better today; definately and anser to prayer and an evident act of God. Definately not broken, either. Today I visited Laurent with Amanda and Avdi. This kid is extremely talented and bright. The visit seemed somewhat mediocre, not alot was shared, but it wasn't negative either. I really like Avdi. As we walked back to the center, I got to chat with him some more and it was enjoyable. He's an ambitious fella but also tenderhearted. He teaches English in a secondary school. Him and his three siblings are all teachers - impressive. They have a real heart for Kosova and the future generation.

Here's Teacher Amanda with Laurent in class. She's being "surprised."
I was fortunate to be in Amanda's class for both camps. We were quite vibrant,
had alot of energy, and had a knack for working off of each others' ideas.

The infamous "CUP GAME!" Because my toe was agonizingly painful, I
resorted to a less-active means of entertaining the kids - they loved it!

20 July

Today, I got to experience a wedding. I'll tell ya, I was thoroughly happy to be invited to this event, a way to experience more culture of Kosova. The groom, Seli [spelling?], was a medical student who worked with my dad when he came to Kosova in 2000 - so that is the connection. Anyway, I was told to look forward to great feasts and good dancing, so I did just that. We arrived and Mark and I went to the guys' house, and Trish and Vjollca went to the womens' area. Upon our arrival, we were led to a room in the back where I was the youngest by at least 20 years. Mark engaged in Albanian conversations and I just, sat there. It was pleasant. Everybody stood up shortly thereafter which meant, as I found out, that we had to go pick up the bride. So, oh neat, we all jump in cars, drive across town, honk our horns and go crazy, like all of the preceding wedding processionals I'd observed so far. Simple, right?

wrong.

Actually, four fully grown men and myself packed into a two-door sports car and drove across the country which took a little less than 2 hours to arrive at the bride's house. It was brutal. The bright side was that my driver spoke English and I got to see some pretty scenery. At the bride's house we were greeted by all the men in her family [the women were again at a seperate location] and proceeded to sit in a circle. Then, different family members distributed wafer cookies, Bitter Lemon Schweppe's soda, and 4 cigarettes. Well, unsure what to do, I just sat there and sipped my soda [it was quite bitter]. A man sitting next to me warned me [in English] that I had to smoke at least one cigarette. When I told him I prefered not to smoke, he laughed and me and said, "I know, but this is the bride's house, you have to play by their rules."

So, here I am...frantically figuring out how to improvise lighting the cig, putting it in my mouth, and not smoking it [I knew I'd look like an idiot if I tried to smoke it]. So, this gentleman was holding the lighter out, and just as I was about to smoke it, he pulled back and said...

"hahahaha just kidding!!!" Wow, what a way to take advantage of the ignorant American.
So, we left the bride's house, drove back to Lypjan, and then the dancing started. We stuck around for a while, and then Trish asked if we were ready to go... this whole time, I was anticipating the wonderful feast I was promised. Now it was 7:30 and the last thing I ate was at 10:00, so I was pretty starving. We went to Golden Day Restaurant and I had a steak, it was wonderful. Appearantly, we were too late, and the men had already eaten. Oh well, a fun experience, but I'd have liked to been without the four+ hours in the car. Brutal.

Some men dancing together [at the bride's house]
I enjoyed dancing, and it wasn't too difficult to pick up.

A scene from the car ride.

Mark, Trish, and I at the wedding. Notice the bride in the background -
she had to stand like a statue the entire time, never smiling
[symbolism of sadness for leaving family]

Kosova Journal: Week 4, 21 July - 27 July

21 July

Today I visited Granit's family with the Valentines, Sam, and Vjollca [our translator]. This was a very enjoyable visit. Granit's grandfather talked the entire time; that's my only complaint. He spoke alot of his 45 years of teaching. Tim knew him from last year and was able to guide the conversation more by asking the right questions. This reminded me of the importance of writing our information down and remembering it for next time you/I visit. I was slightly distracted by the constraints of time - I was supposed to meet Noli and Bonita to go see his parents - but I was confined to my visit as the russian tea [qaj] hadn't finished cooking yet. This made for a fast-paced walked to the center where I found they they had already left, which made me glad. I would not have wanted them to wait for me. The Grandpa was only 68 and his 96-year old mother was still alive. Wow! [He was her primary care-provider].

Here's Tim and Terri Valentine and myself. Tim is just a really cool guy, I got to have
a few valuable conversations with him. Same goes for his daughter, Terri, who is my age. We got along quite well.

22 July

Camp today was tough. I think that most everybody was irritated by something or some kid. Fatos did not show up for the 2nd straight day. Is it wrong to be happy about that? Yes, I think so. I went to the village of Bonulle with Terri to visit her kid Arlind. This was a fairly enjoyable visit. Their 17-year old son looked asian, seriously, and it was fun talking to him. I had little pears at this visit - they were okay; a little crunchy, but okay to eat. I also accompanied Arlind in a little wedding dance; it was foolish, but enjoyable, and they all got a chuckle out of it. I'm actually going to document this as the least-favored coffee of my trip so far. Shh! Don't tell. So, we were supposed to visit Fatos in addition to Arlind, but he wasn't in camp the past two days to tell me he would be out of town. So, shucks. Terri and I went to telnet [the other internet cafe] to kill the extra time and that was swell. Tonight we had small group debriefing. My group was, in fact, quite small - just Tim and me. But, we had a good time talking. He shared a short version of his testimony with me [which is miraculous and incredible] and we talked about his Kosova experiences, and my first one. It was a valuable time.

[Anecdote about Tim]
I didn't know it was possible for a man to break his collarbone in a hockey game, brush it off, continue the game, drive home, lay down, writhe in pain, finally call a taxi to take him to the hospital, call the taxi an hour later to assure them that it wasn't a joke/prank, get an ER examination, get a small sling, and, to save money, walk home 10 miles at 3 AM in the morning in the winter in Northern New York state. Man, this guy was hardcore.

Afterwards, Agron, Xhevat, and I hung out at Agron's place as we watched the 2nd section of "Man on Fire" until the power once again went out. Then we chilled with his family, drank tea, and had more dinner. Well, it was getting late, so I thought I should get home. On our way, we ran into Josh and Tim at Ciao's chatting with Besnik, Noli, and Mentor - another religion discussion! They soon ended because it was getting late, but the best part about this was that after deeply sharing out opposing viewpoints with each other, we're still friends, unoffended. I'm told that not many muslims act in such a way after a discussion of religion. Tonight Josh mentioned that I'm a cool guy and a good roommate, and he was glad things had been working out. That was unexpected and benign of him. Since so much was on our minds [b/c of another deep islam/christianity discussion], we all had trouble going to sleep.

Unfortunately I have no pictures of Besnik, but Mentor [right of me] was part of the discussions,as well as Josh, my roommate. Hissouri [spell?] was a very friendly Albanian fella whom we got to know.
He owned a small hardward/repair shop.

23 July

Sunday. If I ever needed Sunday to be a day of rest, I needed it today and man, was it blissful. Church this morning was nice and Mark preached on selections from Ephesians using JENGA as a model - it was unique and memorable. Josh and I, all of a suddden with about five hours to kill after church, went to the cultural center to try to find the piano Noli told me about. It was all locked up unfortunately. So, as to not let our afternoon be of boredom and solidarity, we ventured to the guys' house and on the way i remembered that I had a photo for Svetlana and Miljana and we thought we'd go walking towards their house[s] to see if we could find them. well, as we're only about 200 feet into the road, we see 2 little girls sprinting towards us - its them! They were so thrilled to see us. I had my arms wide open, Svetlana had her arms wide open, just about to ready to embrace and ----- she runs right past me into a Josh. I would've have felt so bad had not Miljana done the same thing, but they did. It was really just hilarious. So, the invited for coffee at Miljana's house [where I had gone on a visit the previous camp] and we went, without a translator. But, they were so thrilled to see us, that it didn't really matter. We played cards, had coffee, and I WAS able to give them my picture. After a little while, we left to go to Svetlana's house which was nearby. So, we had more coffee and really good cookie-type snacks. We stayed there until about 2:30-3:00; it was so much fun. Sanja and Jelena [serbian language helpers] heard we were over there and came by to translate and play cards with us; it was just so great. And, Svetlana took pictures. I realized I only know 4 words in the serbian languague, but golly, can I milk them for all they're worth. Haha. So, we left to go to GOLDEN DAY because we were absolutely starving. So I had about an hour with Josh and a "Kosovare" Pizza [sausage, peppers, cheese - super good]. We discussed some personal family stuff os his - he's been through alot, and once again I fell grateful for the functionality of my family and my strong relationships with my siblings, it truly is a blessing. There is more, but an hour later we found ourselves at the miftari's house, as planned. This was a blast, so much fun. We got there and I greeted the girls, met their brother, and got to talk to Islam, their father, for a very long time. He had a very neat story about coming to America and getting a certificate of study from Johns Hopkins AND evacuating New Orleans 2 days before Katrina struck. Wow, jsut more evidence of God's providential care over lives. Well, I saw how to make flia, a delicious food item unique only to Kosova. Its a multi-layered dish of crepe-like layers with a crea/salt filling - and wow. The serving sizes tend to be enormous. They served baklava for dessert. Many people came on this visit as they're a popular family. I was mindful of my interactions, especially with the girls, and I did fairly well - just have fun and enjoy all the company, thats the gist of it. Roza taught me to make qaj [tea] which also prompted me to buy my mini-set, I don't think that I will regret it.

All in all, this was the best day in terms of releaxation and rejuvenation. Though, the trip to Skopje is a close, close second.



24 July

Monday. My kids were difficult today and I gave them only 8 points [possible 15]. I guess it comes with the knowledge that, "there IS no way we could win, so why try?" Oh well, we managed. This was also a bummer because Amanda was sick and couldn't teach us; we totally feed off each other and have a BLAST. Today was a little less-vibrant